Why is it that some parents feel they need to experience EVERYTHING with their child? Your child doesn’t have to have you with them every second of their lives. Some things are better experienced on their own.
When little Johnny needs to have his first visit with the dentist, let him go it alone. We are able to explain what is going to transpire during his visit in fun terms that will engage him. He doesn’t need you standing by the side of the chair, concerned look on your face, patting his little hand and chanting, “It will be alright, it will be alright.” This doesn’t calm him, it makes him think, “Why wouldn’t it be alright? What the heck is going on here?” Passing on your fears to your child doesn’t do anybody any good.
We have fun with the children when they come for their visits and make it as easy as possible for them. Many kids that we have been seeing since they were 4yrs old or younger, never even knew they were getting a shot until they were teenagers. They will laugh and say, “You always said you were blowing a bubble next to my tooth and I believed you. I never even thought about it being a shot”.
Bottom line, little Johnny doesn’t need you to fill his head with your versions of what a dental visit is all about. Let him experience it for himself. I think you will find that we are all better off, especially little Johnny.